Wednesday, December 27, 2006


2006 Christmas letter


To our friends and family near and far,

This is the year when we can say, “We did it!”

As many of you have been following through our photo essays, we stopped talking about doing a major renovation and actually went through with it.

We chopped down the trees, picked up the house, built the new foundation, moved the house, tore down parts of the house including most interior walls, built it up again, added a great room out the back, and finished it nicely with hardwood floors, a funky bathtub, and a palette of vibrant colours. Well, actually, dozens of workmen and a few workwomen did all that while we stopped by every day and said, “good job!”

It’s nearly done. Guys are working frantically through these last pre-Christmas days finishing flooring and window treatments, and the kitchen cabinetry is coming next. We should be in by early January.

Daryl deserves credit for excellent supervision of the job and lots of the grunt work of going and selecting fixtures and colours and the thousand little decisions that had to be made, with some input from Anne. He also did some actual work on the house, including helping with some demolition, and installing tongue-in-groove ceilings and wainscotting.

Although we’ve been planning this for a long time, we couldn’t say for certain that we were doing it until July 10, when we returned from our Long Beach vacation.

That’s when the last hoop, the septic approval, was finally jumped through. We spent the first half of the year applying for variances (going before council asking if it’s okay if we moved our house that was too close to the road — that nobody knows is a road — further from the road — that nobody knows is a road — but still illegally close to it), mortgages (convincing the bank that it’s okay to spend as much on a reno as a new house because it will be just like a new house), reno permits (convincing the city that yes, this is a reno, because we’re going to pick up the old house and put it on top of the new house bits) and septic approval (I kept saying it’s not official until the poo lady signs), as well as selecting a contractor. As to why it had to be a reno rather than a new house, that’s a long story.

Last year at this time I said we had somewhere to live during the reno, but the people behind that very kind offer understandably changed their minds when they found out it may be for six months. We went through two other possible rental scenarios (thanks for the offers, folks) until a sudden opportunity arose to rent the farmhouse on the property of our good friends the Hagens out in rural Rosedale.

We moved here in late July and have had a neat five months (well-documented photographically) of even more country living than we’re usually accustomed to.

The kids will be able to tell their grandkids about when they had to walk or bike a kilometre to the school bus, in wind, rain, snow, and ice (with the occasional ride from Mum or Dad). They’ve mostly enjoyed doing so because they had the company of the Hagen kids.

Cheryl and Daryl enjoyed their morning coffee klatches walking with the kids to the bus, and Cheryl and Anne enjoyed their Friday afternoon beers in the autumn sunshine until winter kicked in.

We’ve plucked eggs from the Hagens’ chickens, seen their baby calf within hours of its birth, and enjoyed walking to the Cleggs’ forest, including last week when we went to see the salmon spawning.

The kids have loved the freedom of the quiet country roads, going for bike rids, blackberry picking, or just hanging out. Emma has loved being able to run next door to play with her friends. They’ve had to be driven to their friends for playdates for their whole lives so this was a taste of a less constrained lifestyle.

In the midst of this major upheaval we managed to have a bit of a normal but momentous year.

We both turned 40 in April and marked it with a big bash at the Camp River Hall. We’ve never had a big enough house to invite all our friends over at once (well, maybe we do we enjoyed the chance to do it there, with a well-planned song playlist by DJ Daryl, food provided by everyone, outdoor fun for the kids once the rain stopped, and lots of good company and dancing. I’ll always remember Miles leading the conga line of kids and adults throughout the hall to his favourite song, “I Like to Move it Move it.”

We escaped to Hornby Island for a most excellent party with the Rogalsky/Cameron clan, with a stop in Qualicum at the Hansson house, and four days in Long Beach, where Anne and Daryl quietly marked 25 years together and 14 years of marriage on July 4 (with three kids along to help us celebrate).

We also had a quick trip to Kelowna to see the second cousins there, and enjoyed a brief visit from the Winnipeg cousins and a long one from the India Russells. Nice to see y’all. Looking forward to connecting with the Kamloops and Williams Lake and Coquitlam/Port Moody clans at Christmas. A shout-out as well to those New Brunswick folks, who are doing a pretty good job of communicating these days. And it was great to visit with Uncle John and Aunt Lis, all the way from New Zealand.

The girls had great years academically and athletically, and Molly took on a new challenge by moving to Strathcona for her last year of elementary so she could take French Immersion. It’s amazing what she’s learned in four months, and through her hard work and diligence, her grades have remained excellent. Quite the change for her, from a school of 160 kids to one of over 500, but she brought some friends with her and has made new ones, and likes her teachers too. She’s still involved in and enjoying soccer, volleyball, basketball, and Destination Imagination.

Emma is still enjoying the comfortable surroundings of her little country school, East Chilliwack, and her weekly gymnastics sessions. She came back to soccer after a two-year absence once it switched from co-ed to all girls, and has been improving steadily and working on assertiveness.

Both Daryl and Anne coached spring soccer teams, and Daryl continues to coach Molly this fall and winter.

Miles has had a great year of good health and developmental milestones. He was weaned in April, potty trained in August during our move and vacation (with occasional unfortunate lapses), and moved out of the cupboard in our bedroom when we came to this house (although still a frequent visitor to our bed). We’ve also retired the booster seat at the table. And no hospital visits this year!

He loves to run, dance, jump on the trampoline, ride his bike, snuggle, read with us, play with his toys, and bug his sisters, especially Emma.

He’s really developed his speech this year.

Some favourite quotes:

(He’d tried Fruit Loops for the first time and had misplaced his bowl): “Where are my different-coloured rainbow circle eating things?”

(He had to buy slippers for a little stint at a local daycare and had never had any before and confused them with flip-flops): “Where are my slip-slops?”

(He confused wrestle with snuggle for the longest time): “I want to wrestle with you Mama.” (I oblige by tackling him.) “No, me want to snuggle you.”

We said goodbye to poor old Barney in April. He was waking up at six to stagger outside to bark at nothing, and was too deaf and blind to realize you were shouting at him to stop barking at nothing, and would reward you with inside surprises if you didn’t let him out. All a sign that he’d seen better days. But he was a good dog for us for 14 years. The three cats adapted well to the move and will be surprised with a move back soon. They love the countryside out here.

Anne tried to keep fit this year and had a great time at Cardio Core boot camp for the month of June (6 a.m five mornings a week) but discovered early arthritis in her knee and now declares that aging sucks, although she’s not ready to give up running yet. She also combined her new digital SLR camera, her love of storytelling, her beautiful surroundings and adventurous lifearing website, into a voracious and prolific hobby.

And she got bionic eyes in August, braving the surgeon’s laser in order to ditch contacts and glasses, with miraculous results. Highly recommended.

Daryl as usual gets to edit out whatever I say about him, but he did do a super job steering the creative and practical side of our house construction, and got to escape for four days in May to the Horde music festival at the Gorge in Washington and pretend he was 22 again.

We were happy to help Anne’s Dad celebrate his 75th birthday in December and Daryl’s Mum mark her 65th in March, major milestones for both.

This was a long one, but it was quite a year! Thanks for living it with us, whether near or far.

Love,

Anne, Daryl, Molly, Emma, Miles

Monday, December 11, 2006

A historical post on Miles' health saga



Miles hospital tour 2004/05

(No, he's not sick again! Just wanting to preserve these emails I sent out for historical purposes.)
From October 2004 to June 2005, Miles and the rest of us, especially me, endured numerous emergency visits, ambulance rides, pediatric ward admissions, invasive and tortuous medical interventions, oxygen hookups, for treatment for childhood asthma.

This was extremely tough on many levels, from seeing our toddler suffer, to subjecting him to procedures he couldn't understand and which hurt and scared him (taking blood for tests, taking x-rays that involved physically confining him, shoving oxygen tubes up his nose), to finding out how physically strong a toddler is (we don't usually do things to them that involve them resisting with all their tiny little might!). Being in the pediatric ward in a hospital 30 km from home was also hard because friends and family couldn't just drop in to relieve me.

But on the bright side, Canada's public health care system was there for me when I needed it.
The social observer in me learned a lot (just during our emergency visites I vicariously experienced the tragedies of knife wound treatment, overdose, dementia, miscarriage, and a really weird devil dude with a cut thumb on Halloween).

This went on from when he was 16 months to his second birthday. We had one more emergency visit when he was 29 months, but weren't admitted. He's been under regular pediatrician care since (and has seen a total of 10 pediatricians, just the way things turn out in the public system), and is now just on flovent and singulair. We also went to "asthma school" as I call it, with a very helpful respiratory therapist at the Chilliwack hospital.

We dare not say he's outgrown it, but is doing really well and has weathered several chest colds without going into crisis. It was all such an intense experience that I wanted to preserve the record of it by posting some of my group emails from the time.

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From Nov 15, 2004

Hi Friends,

To bring you up to speed.

Please excuse this impersonal way of communicating, but I know it will exhaust me if I have to answer all or some of your inquiries of how was my high school reunion with the sad tale of it turning into an emergency stay at Royal Columbian for Miles and I.

We left him with my nurse sister-in-law five minutes from the hotel where the reunion was. We knew he was having some breathing issues but thought home-administered ventolin would do the trick, or at least fooled ourselves into believing that so we could steal some hours of enjoyment at the reunion we'd worked so hard to organize.

(A VERY successful and fun party, btw. Over 340 grads from our class of 800,
everyone out to have good time.)

Anyway, I checked at 9 pm and things weren't going well, so I brought my very own emergency doctor from the reunion, the kind and sober husband of a fellow grad, and he assessed Miles at my brother's house. A doctor and nurse in the house! How's that for service?

But Miles was struggling to breathe, so it was off to Royal Columbian, and six hours of waiting in a tiny pediatric cell in emergency, with consults by residents and doctors and med students and pediatrician, and a spooky ride through the dark hospital to the X-ray (Miles' fourth!) and torturous blood work at 3 am, finally admitted to Ped Ward at 4 am, bed for me, exhausted, at 4:30 am (I wouldn't have minded staying up that late if it was to party at the reunion!)

Spent Saturday and today until noon in the ped ward, in treatment and being monitored. They're calling it childhood asthma, say this latest attack was triggered by a cold, and that any infection is viral and won't respond to antibiotics, so we're treating with asthma medication.

He is much better now. I really wish I could have enjoyed my reunion more but those kiddies do come first.

The new tally of medical professionals who've looked at/cared for Miles in the last two months:

Six generalish-type physicians, including ER docs, including the friend at my brother's house.
Five pediatricians
Three residents
Four med students
At least a dozen nurses. All nice, but the RCH ones were pretty burnt out.
Apparently there have been cutbacks on the ped ward.
At least four steal-your-blood, attack-with-needle lab technician ladies.

It's not like we're extra attention-seeking, it's just happened that way because of the three hospitals we've been in.

Thank Tommy Douglas for Medicare!

I hope the Anne/Miles Lower Mainland hospital tour of Fall 04 is over now!


Anne

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Dec 16, 2004

Hospital tour continues


Dear Friends, Family, Colleagues,

(not that those labels are mutually exclusive in many cases!)

Just a quick update to save repeating myself. Miles and I just spent another three days in the pediatric ward of Abbotsford hospital (or as I call it, “baby jail”: it has striped pyjamas, bars on the cribs, bad food, and everything!).

He went into respiratory crisis again on Monday afternoon and we went to Chilliwack emergency, were stabilized and sent home, but we soon realized he was still in crisis, so went back, treated again, and eventually transported by ambulance (again!) to Abbotsford, as we have no pediatric ward in Chilliwack.

They tested for something called RSV (as they always do) and he tested positive this time, so we were isolated in a four-bed room with other RSV cases. It’s basically a virus that acts like a cold for most people but really latches on to some babies and toddlers, especially those with compromised breathing systems, such as our poor little guy.

Miles and I had a really rough night the first night there, ventolin treatments every hour, scary low oxygen scores, sitting up with him to keep him breathing better, and not much sleep.

Things were a bit better Tues as we were able to sleep and recover a bit. Miles spent the whole 60 hours or so attached to oxygen through the nostrils with a 10-foot “leash”, so his movement was rather limited. He is so good natured that he took this very well and accepted his limitations with grace.

The rest of our time there was an exercise in patience as we waited for his oxygen levels to improve enough to wean off the oxygen feed and be liberated and go home. I’m getting better at this waiting game, and decided to look at the bright side of our situation:

· We once again received excellent medical care from many caring nurses and doctors (our pediatrician count is now up to EIGHT!), including some fine UCFV alumni.

· I got to spend many precious hours with my son when I would usually be working.

· Got to call on friends and family for care and takeout dinners and lunches and care for our girls and they delivered! And colleagues at work pitched in for me. Thanks all.

· I finished two whole books and almost a whole jigsaw puzzle! How often do I have that much leisure time!

· As usual, Miles, just by being his sweet self, charmed nurses, doctors, and hospital visitors alike as he stood at the door looking balefully out at the rest of the ward, tethered by the nose to his oxygen machine.

· Had a nice bonding/mentoring time with a young mother who recently emigrated from India, as we were confined together for three days. The most comical part of this was teaching her Jingle Bells and trying to explain the lyrics to her. (“Dashing – it’s kind of like running. A sleigh – you get pulled on it... through the snow… by a horse… well, I’ve never actually been in a one-horse open sleigh, but it sounds fun. Bells on bobtail ring… well, you put these bells on the horse’s tail… I guess you bob the tail first. Bobbing, it’s kind of like a haircut… anyway, the bells ring, that’s why they sing Jingle Bells!")

· This being a prime time of year for taking pity on waifs, and the kids in hospital being especially waif-like, Miles came home with FOUR corporate-sponsored presents this time. And since I give Telus, A&W, and Starbucks lots of money the rest of the year, I don’t feel guilty about receiving!

We’ve now spent nine days in a ped ward and four or five days in emergency over the past three months. Definitely enough already! And yes, despite my attempt to maintain a positive attitude, this definitely does all suck!

So, here we are, back at home and hoping.

Oh, and if we're late with your Christmas card or present, now you know why!

Thanks for all your kind thoughts and wishes.

Anne


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From June 12, 2005, the day before he turned 2!

To those who knew, those who didn’t, and all who care:

After just getting comfortable with Miles’ health (six months hospital-free!), we got to go on that wild journey again.

Miles took a sudden downward turn on Thursday. I was called home at noon by Daryl, who had a very lethargic boy on his lap. I gave him ventolin and got him to sleep, and after he woke at 2 and was still struggling to breathe, I drove him into Chilliwack Hospital.

Then it was hello to our old friends the nurses, yes we're here again, been six months this time, yes he's grown. They gave him more ventolin, did an X-ray, checked his oxygen levels -- not great -- so off again with the ambulance men to MSA Hospital in Abbotsford, where I again met nurses we'd had before, along with a hunky and very-good-with-kids resident doctor who was great with Miles, and a competent young woman pediatrician (who didn't believe me when I told her she was our ninth pediatrician in eight months -- "but we don't have nine pediatricians in Abbotsford," she said. "Oh, we don't confine ourselves to Abbotsford," I said. "We have medical crises all over the Lower Mainland.").

Back to the skinny little cot that Miles insists on sleeping with me in, and various forms of baby torture, such as holding him down for oral meds and strapping oxygen nasal prongs in and taping them on, then at midnight taping his pajama sleeves shut because he'd been tearing at his prongs in his sleep.

Roommates my first night were a nice quiet family and some obnoxious woman who was very sick herself and who let her very loud daughter watch very loud TV while she tried to sleep and her daughter kept saying (yelling) "Mama, why are you resting? What's resting Mama? Why are your eyes closed?"

Miles had ventolin every hour that first night, lots of fuzzy waking-up moments with beautiful young nurses hovering over us -- maybe Daryl should have been there for that. The next day he was in pretty good spirits (he's amazingly resilient) and played while tethered at the nose to his oxygen for the first half of the day and gradually improved.

The room, mercifully, emptied out, and I enjoyed a bit of resigned peace -- yes, I'm under extreme deadline pressures at work; yes, I was supposed to drive an old lady to Convocation at UCFV; yes, Miles was supposed to have a birthday party in two days; yes, there was likely a very old cowboy whose phone number I'd lost and who couldn't talk very well anyway (stroke I think) planning to show up for the cancelled party with a pony and how would I contact him; yes, Emma's birthday comes the day after Miles' and she needs presents -- but I couldn't do a damn thing about any of it, so I read my book while he napped, and enjoyed his company when he was awake.

But it was too good to be true (if hospital stays can be construed as good). First in came nice but very loud four-year-old boy and his mum, also suffering from asthma. Disturbing but tolerable. But soon after came nice baby with hillbilly family from Hell. Teenaged mum, teenaged dad, grandma about my age with two tiny girls of her own, all making their presence very known in the space beside me. I drew the curtains quickly, but they kept getting undrawn because we had to share the chair for giving our babies treatments.

Very obnoxious dad complained that nothing or nobody was going to stop him from being there -- restraining order or not. Then he was dispatched to get dinner, and came back bragging of having ridden his bike to the pawn shop to pawn something to get enough scratch for dinner and cigarettes, but he was 35 cents short for cigarettes, and they had to share one Subway sandwich, and proceeded to argue about how many chips each got. Meanwhile, the baby's mini-aunties were generally adding to the screech level in the place and grandma was complaining about wasting money on Subway when she'd brought peanut butter for them all. Believe me, I would have loved to have skipped all this sociology-by-eavesdropping!

They all left except mum and baby and I thought things would settle down. Miles went to sleep on me on the world's skinniest and most uncomfortable cot, and proceeded to sleep through his every-two-hours treatments right til morning. Meanwhile, hillbilly baby (bless his heart and I'm not blaming him) proceeded to scream FOR THE ENTIRE 15 MINUTES every time he got a treatment, in the chair two feet away from my head. And nice-enough-if-loud (during the day) four-year-old boy turned into a demon every time the mask was applied for his treatments, screaming "TAKE IT OFF MUMMY,TAKE IT OFF!!!!" over and over and over and over and over and over and over again for ENTIRE 15 MINUTES of his treatment. And sometimes these boys' treatments coincided!

(I clenched my jaw and survived, squished into my very uncomfortable cot, thinking, "I definitely deserve some type of medal for this part." I also had a dream that I was back in my single bed at my parents' house and lobbying to be given one of my brothers' bigger beds as I had this toddler sleeping on me now.)

Mercifully again, both these boys were discharged the next morning (not before I got to hear about hillbilly Daddy having to take anger management classes before he could live with them), and by this time Miles had improved enough to be let off his oxygen leash, and could roam the whole ward. We were just waiting to see if he was stable enough to be sent home (meaning, could go to once every four hours ventolin treatments). He was freed at 6 pm last night and we came home to our big bed. Even if I had to wake up at 2 am and 6 am to give him treatments it sure beat the night before.

Birthday party cancelled (luckily, old cowboy's daughter had phoned us to cancel his gig as her dad is too old to supervise pony rides anymore) but we're very happy to be home. Took Miles out to two stops on the Ryder Lake Ramble (a farm-visiting day in the hills south of Chilliwack) and he got to see donkeys and llamas and a big horse before coming home for his next meds.

So that’s the update. Hope this is not a continuing saga, but I’m grateful for all the help and good wishes we received once again.

Anne

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Anne1
Originally uploaded by Rosedale Annie.
Just wanting to add a relatively recent photo of me.

Saturday, December 02, 2006

Moon over Cheam


Moon over Cheam
Originally uploaded by Rosedale Annie.
Moon coming up over Mt. Cheam in Rosedale, outside Chiliwack, at around 4:15 pm on Dec 2, 2006. I was just lucky to notice it in time to get out there and start shooting.

Friday, December 01, 2006

Crazy Russells too


Crazy Russells too
Originally uploaded by Rosedale Annie.
Nice to get those cousins together once in a while.

Majestic Mt. Cheam, Chilliwack (Rosedale)

Was pretty beautiful around here this week.